As understood by Bks

Relationships-parent and child

Whatever thoughts we create affect the child in the womb

Born emotionally weak could be because mom was emotionally weak.. 

We cant think negative towards the child but every single thought created is energy and that energy affects it

Create a positive Environment in the house with the right energy by right thoughts

Every thought created reaches the person it is created towards.. 

Welcome the new soul.. not reject it because of any reason.. even at thought level

Soul is mature.. body might be tiny.. brain not yet developed.. but the soul can catch our thoughts and behaviour..

A child is an individual.. a pure soul.. physical.. intellectual and social development we give.. but spiritual gets neglected.. 

Treat the child as a pure soul.. 

Child believes performance and achievements get appreciation.. not qualities and values..

My baby is an individual soul.. 

Attachment and love are different

Is it beneficial for mother to be in equal pain as the child.. then how will she have the clarity to know what to do.. how will she emanate positive energy.. love and compassion

Ask yourself do you want to give pain or support.. 

Detachment does not decrease love it reduces pain

Detachment means soul consciousness

It increases efficiency

everyday remind yourself you are a pure soul playing different roles.. in thought mind and action

Information -thots -destiny 

Be careful to teach positive thinking.. by your own example.. right information .. right thots.. no tv while eating.. right food.. 

Stop teaching when the child falls to hit the object

We teach when in pain its always someone elses responsibility

Teach it to take responsibility positively

Stop instilling fear in a child to get him to do things.. 

Explain things instead of refusing them.. to build trust in your word.. 

We do not have to mould a child.. we need to mould ourselves..

Parent is the role model.. whatever we do becomes right and the norm for them.. 

We are creating his belief system

Mistake results in scolding.. blame culture-it is never my fault.. all belief systems set from birth.. 

The soul understands.. 

All our thoughts transmit to the child.. more than our words.. disharmony between our thought word and action reaches the child

We need to prepare ourselves for positive situations.. and strengthen our child accordingly.. 

It is less about me with you.. it is more about me with myself..

Happiness is within.. teach your child that.. 

Have harmony within

Comparison is a huge blockage in personality development 

Every soul is unique

Motivate as per individual capacity

You can be happy being who you are.. not being who others want you to be

We think child is in our control.. but the child is only listening to a parent as the most influential person in their life

For 2 people to have a dialogue there should be mutual respect.. that you are perfect just the way you are

No one is ever wrong.. from their perspective its right thats why we do things.. there is always a reason for it

Understand the others perspective and empathise first..

Create this thought with conscious attention that what the other person is saying is right.. and then listen to what they are saying

There is no winning or losing only bringing out the right solution

Give them the opportunity to share.. sit in their position and understand

Involve the child in family decisions.. give them responsibility.. 

Don’t try to change the child.. accept him as he is

Keep attention with acceptance.. 

Correct the child with positive energy not shouting 

Give unconditional love for the way they are

Trust in your thoughts not just words.. don’t let doubt creep in.. have faith.. and transmit that.. 

Accept first that the child is also right.. 

We always want to influence other people .. 

We need our importance

Attachment will always create pain.. resulting in expectation.. 

TRUST

When we are filled and confident we cannot be insecure

We first evaluate then trust.. we should first trust then evaluate

If we genuinely trust someone there are extremely rare chances of betrayal.. and more of mutual trust..

Whatever we think emanates as energy around us and affects people accordingly..

Trusting is our decision then why feel hurt on betrayal..

We need to recognize the goodness in others

I have a choice to decide if you are good or bad.. and in all these choices we build or break relationships

We give trust like a favor.. 

Can we trust ourselves.. we break our own trust every moment.. with every resolve that we break.. and we get hurt when others break our trust

What we do the benefit remains with us.. but we want outside commendation and praise and recognition.. which if missing dismisses our own benefit into a feeling of total loss.. 

Satsfaction should be in our work done not the outside results of the work done

If you are wearing diamonds and people call it stone, will you throw it away..

Recognize your own value and save yourself from unnecessary disillusionment

Does doubt make you happy or faith and trust

We burden ourselves constantly with negative emotions feeling so heavy all the time

People hurting us have nothing to do with us and everything to do with their nature.. and our comprehension and perception of the situation

Miracles happen because we can make them do so

Happiness is a journey not the destination

Trust is a source of comfort and happiness

What we think about another person becomes our belief even though it might be totally removed from reality

Self created assumptions can only be cleared by ourselves

Intention is very important towards resolving any issue.. 

MEDITATION

I am a peaceful loving soul

Even if you get angry, sit back and evaluate the scene as an observer right then.. understand how you feel.. accept that the other person is right from their viewpoint.. 

The beauty of the world is that we are all unique.. then why we want everyone to be the same.. 

Unconditional love is between god and us.. mother and child.. and we need to find that with every person we meet.. who you are.. how you are is perfect.. 

Accept people the way they are.. find the strength or unique qualities in every person and watch the transformation

Let go of people and situations in the past and stop draining your energy..

Give clear instructions to your mind..

I is the energy that is running this body.. who am i.. 

Brain is the control box or cpu of the body.. the one who operates is the soul.. the programmer.. the I.. 

Sanskar means nature.. comes with past life.. heredity.. environment.. and will power.. fifth is our original qualities.. which is same in everyone.. 

Everyone is a pure beautiful being including ourselves

Spirituality is for practical life

Soul consciousness is first stage of meditation.. who am i..

We are seeking our original qualities outside..

HAPPINESS

Happiness is internal, eternal and not conditional..

Happiness is natural 

Thought creates feeling.. feeling creates attitude.. attitude creates words or action(behaviour).. words or action create habit.. habit creates personality.. personality creates destiny..

The quality of thoughts depends on past experiences, information and belief system..

First thing in the morning the base in the mind should be saturated with positivity..

Our thoughts create a vibration that flood the other person with that energy

All the power and energy is within us.. not depending on others or outside.. 

TENSION

Be aware of your thought-process.. and all the raw material(information) entering your mind.. 

Avoid toxic conversationalists

Evaluate your belief-system from time to time

Tension is not natural.. stop accepting it as normal and we need to find a cure for it

Anxiety and tension does not improve performance.. reduces concentration.. creates health problems

Exams, targets and deadlines leave us a choice to be relaxed or tense.. 

Escapism is the result of believing that others or situations are responsible for our problems

Its not what you say to me.. it is what i do with what you say to me that is responsible for the way i feel

Response is not created by the stimulus.. it is created by the person responding to the stimulus

ANGER

There is nothing like right and wrong.. for what is right for one can be wrong for another..

False belief that anger only gets work done 

Anger cannot be an incentive for work.. only gives negative energy.. taking away from peak performance

Put yourself in the place of another.. do you work better with anger or love.. and behave accordingly

If work cannot be done with love, it can never be done with anger

Your target should be building relationship not short-term goal

Leader always needs to remain stable

Priority should be people not targets.. 

We do not need Anger to be authoritative

If the aim of your life is to attain happiness then choose the correct direction.. work towards it not rushing towards targets

We transmit energy.. negative or positive

Respond to anger reaction is only a mirror of the other person

No one can make you angry, only you can do so

Our positivity leaves its mark on the other person.. 

We are so full of ourselves that even when we do good it is with the consciousness of doing it setting ourselves apart and above others.. 

Our words and actions impact others.. but what we think imacts us affecting our relationships

Think and understand to respond

Reject anger with complete conviction for it to go.. 

We cannot change other people only ourselves

Self counseling is the first step towards meditation

Counsel yourself without judgment with compassion

Every morning take an oath of not getting angry.. then try to follow it

It does not matter what others think.. it matters what we believe

3 attentions.. dont raise your hand.. dont abuse.. dont think wrong

Anger leaves us feeling heavy not light

Anger is reaction and Discipline is response

When making a mistake one is already in pain and fear.. and we beat that person down even more instead of accepting or healing that pain first.. and then explaining..

Negative input does not get positive output

Change is our biggest root fear in all our stress.. (Coming out of our comfort zone..)

Most change is out of our control.. Death financial crisis etc.. We only focus on the problem.. Creating depression more stress multiplying problems including health relationships etc., how can others understand when we cant understand ourselves.. Money gone but relationships, health mental status is fine.. But we entangle all four.. By focusing on the problem so much.. The problem becomes bigger than us.. When we are bigger.. How do we overcome it.. But its change and we need to take it as a challenge.. The only constant is change.. (Be ready for it.. ) why struggle against worry or fight.. Check Response reaction.. Krishna said everything happening is for the good.. Jo hua woh bhi achha.. Jo ho raha hai woh bahut achha.. Jo honay wala woh bahut bahut achha.. Believe trust accept and make the right choice.. 

Resultant Fear struggle energy-loss protest.. I cannot change the situation but other side of the table is me.. So situation i cant change my response i can.. Thought i create.. Feelings.. Action.. Pain.. Pain hits us that means pain is coming from outside.. Accept situation.. Response is natural.. We create response.. We create thought.. We only focus on situation.. Not on ourselves and so our response is automated.. Not thought out.. Pre-Programmed automated response.. Did not look internally to think of my response.. We only React.. Conditioned over the years.. Wherever attention goes, energy flows.. Our focus is on situation.. We think we can control situation and anger stress etc are out of our control.. You cant stop a virus.. You find measures to protect yourself from the virus.. Virus here is situation.. Tension and stress have become natural emotions even in children reaching depression.. Situation - response.. We have to understand its out of our control.. Instead of feeling powerless.. Weak.. because we cant do anything we start looking around to blame.. Our first thought in everything has become negative.. Difficult ..impossible ..i cant do it.. No one likes me.. No one understands.. No one supports.. Becoming a Vicious cycle of negativity.. We have to sit down and consciously change our thought process.. Break the conditioning.. Say i dont like my boss cant stand him.. Anger hatred resentment.. Resulting in non cooperation.. Impacting your career.. If my situation demands look at choices.. Boss cant change.. Work cant change.. Me i can change.. Change your thinking.. Start seeing the other side of the person.. Cause is me.. Pain i am creating.. Suffocation i am creating.. The boss can only hurt you physically.. Everything i am feeling i am creating myself.. Within me.. Situation and feeling are separate.. (We are constant, situations change, but instead of dealing with the situation we change as per situation.. Letting it rule us.. )

SOUL

👂Meditation means to heal.. 

👂We are possessive about the tv remote but give the remote of our life to the rest of the world 

👂Yoga means connection.. us with god.. us with ourself

👂Meditate to experience an ideal Lifestyle

👂Spirituality and meditation are ways to bring out our own strengths

👂Intuition and creativity emerge as the mind becomes silent with meditation 

👂Experience the answer to who am i

👂Experience is our only truth

👂Negativity is not a part of life it is a signal that you need to awaken from ignorance

👂Attachment to a wrong image of myself is ego.. could be to an idea.. person.. object.. whatever the created image goes through.. we go through the same

👂Clinging to things uses our entire energy in fear of losing it.. when we are supposed to naturally enjoy the things when they are there with us.. for impermanence is inevitable.. 

👂We worry about the health and well-being of our physical self which is temporary.. not the eternal soul

👂i am not the body.. the body is mine

👂I am the energy running my body.. 

👂Computer is the brain.. operator or programmer is me.. body is the machine running by my instruction.. my body gets hurt not me.. 

👂The ego has become a representation of everything physical

👂I am a soul.. energy.. power.. consciousness.. 

👂I am the energy and body the instrument.. nothing happens without my instruction

👂I am not ill or old or ugly.. my body becomes old or ill or ugly

👂I am not this name or this body or profession

👂I am the power that chooses what to do

👂Mind is mann is energy

Brain is computer

👂Thoughts means sankalp

👂Soul plays 3 roles.. thinking as mind or mann.. intellect or buddhi evaluates and takes decision.. brain processes.. and brings into action forming impressions and habits

👂Impression is sanskar or habit

👂Physical sense organs 5 and 3 subtle sense organs as above

👂Thought-decision-habit-changed thought-etc

👂Thought energy affects the pituitary gland in the center of the forehead.. which affects our health

👂I am the master and i have a choice of my life

👂The connection of the body to the soul is through the thoughts

👂Through the body to environment back to soul

👂Intellect(wisdom) and intelligence is different

👂If the mind is strong the outside does not overpower

👂Sum total of impressions determines my nature

👂When we form new impressions old ones get deleted

👂5 sanskars or impressions.. genetic( get from parents).. past birth.. environment.. will power(change with will).. original ( got from god) .. 

👂Dominant impression creates thoughts

👂7 original impressions.. peace.. happiness.. love.. will power.. knowledge.. purity.. bliss.. 

👂Om shanti means i am a peaceful soul

👂Mind creates positive thoughts through meditation.. increases will power.. makes intellect strong.. emerges our original impressions

👂Mind understands.. intellect visualizes.. i experience

👂The seat of the soul is in the center of the forehead

👂When we see in the mirror we see our physical presence.. whatever we see in the world is not necessarily the whole truth.. 

👂In life most problems are because we have forgotten our original  nature.. 

👂I am a peaceful soul..

I am a loveful soul..

I am a blissful soul..