space

Sometimes we feel responsible all around.. but how can we be any different from who we are.. a person loved and loving.. we need to stop blaming ourselves for things that never should have happened.. but when they do. we need to have that much-needed talk with our loved ones.. and maybe resolve a situation that had simply been put on hold.. that desperately needed looking at squarely.. for us, for everyone around.. yes they need our complete assurance, love, and presence.. the only support that can help them come out of their dark inconsolable hell.. all one needs to hear.. that you care.. and it matters.. what happens to them.. how much they mean to you.. in your life.. 'listen' to them.. hear.. share that mute anguish that has led to this moment.. and let them feel your support, empathy and care.. respect your need to make that space, that is so imperative at that time.. for everyone..  wish they did not  have to go through such anguish.. and you do not have to see them like this.. ever again.. maybe you can't help how they feel.. but nothing stops you from being there, being strong, and empathetic.