as a child I read a really funny story of this beautiful girl about to get married.. when her fiance comes to meet them, her father asks her to draw beer from the cellar.. she goes down but does not return for a very long time.. when the mother goes down to find out what has kept her, she sees her daughter crying.. on asking why.. she tells her mom she happened to look up at the ceiling while she was drawing beer, and she saw a hammer stuck in one of the beams, which must have been there from a very long time but she just happened to notice it.. and she said that when she gets married and has a son and he comes down to fetch beer, the hammer might fall and kill him.. the mother sits beside her and starts crying too.. then the father comes down to check up on them and hearing them both he sits beside them and starts crying too.. then the fiance comes down and on hearing their story can't stop laughing, reaches up to take down the hammer and leaves.. now this is a really really funny story.. how stupid, right! but our worries are like this too.. baseless most times.. and so easily rectified, if we would get up and do something about them.. some things never even happen.. and we make so many years of our life.. a living torment..
we CAN just live in the moment, free from past 'baggage' which has already happened and can never become the defining factor of who we are.. and stop worrying about the future, an occurrence that might or might not happen as per our fears..
if the demons don't leave us alone, we can accept the worst, and start building up on it.. the best we can do.. and remember there is a dearer price we pay.. bigger than anything else.. our health.. physical, mental and emotional..
most of the time, it's more a feeling of dread, and it plagues every thought.. every moment.. so we can try defining our fear.. write it down.. face it.. what we can do about it.. what we are going to do about it.. and when we are going to start.. Taking concrete steps is like 'exercise'.. it helps us feel healthy and re-vitalized..
our minds are extremely powerful.. and we are holding the reins.. and if it is in our hands.. why would we want to worry.. it takes away the gift of today.. and all the handful of 'todays' we have in our life.. when we are playing a sport.. all our energy and concentration is on our game.. we can make everything we do a sport..
Some things we cannot change.. it is out of our hands.. like death.. and all we can do is accept it.. and not 'die' or let die.. before the ordained time.. love these words.. "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
we need to ascertain how much of our life we are willing to pay-up for all our worries.. see if it's worth it.. we cannot turn back the clock for the past.. so no point in thrashing ourselves and others for what has already happened.. and no one can predict the future.. so no point in thrashing ourselves and others for what might never happen.. why would anyone want to 'pay' unnecessarily.. but we all are.. big-time.. and the 'cost' reflects deeply.. in and around.. us..
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